I havent edited this at all. No re-read or anything. Im sleepy. Super tiiired. and my brain is everywhere. so caution!
Jealousy is hot. Yup. You read right. It’s pretty attractive… to a certain extent. You know, there’s that “Oh, you know you’re mine,” thing that could be super cute! If I’m walking down the street with my other half and a guy checks me out and my babes pulls me in closer or maybe gives me that look that says, “oh no he didn’t, but its all good because im the one you’re with,” now that’s pure cuteness! If he’s a bit more jealous with the whole, “hey, who was he?” or with the whole asking questions… I could deal with that. I like someone who wants to keep me close and his, (of course to an extent.) Could I really explain myself correctly in this? I’ll try…
In all reality I do not belong to anyone but God. If you want to get deep with it I never have and never will. Then again, I am someones mother, I am someones daughter, I am someones sister, I am someones friend, one day I will be someones other half, etc. So someone could say MY mom, MY sister, MY friend, MY daughter, etc… so getting the whole “but hey, you do not belong to anyone, you shouldnt be considered someones possession, jealousy isnt of God,” and whatever else you could think of out of the way. This is MY opinion. mmmk pumpkin? okaay!
So, as I was saying… a man considers me HIs and shows it, I like that. That to me show he’s confident in the fact that I am his and his alone. He’s my only man, the only one I want in that way. If he gets jealous — its hot. If I’m wearing a skirt that’s too short or something to provocative and he’s like “babe, you need to cover up more,” cuteness! Of course, it depends how he says it, and how he handles himself. Don’t come to me with some serious attitude and looking like you’re about to slap me or something. That’s definitely not how I do!
When i say jealousy to a certain extent is cute… I mean it. i can’t take that back. I love it. Not that I will be all up on a guy or attempt to talk to someone else to get my other half jealous, but if he gets jealous over something – que nene liiindo! My bebe! <3
When is being jealous crossing the line? When insecurities start playing a role! I personally am a very loyal person. In every relationship I’m in whether it be with family, friends, or a love interest, I’m faithful, honest and like communication. That’s how I am. So if my other half is insecure about something, he needs to talk to me, if not the jealousy could get worse and it could hurt the relationship by him not believing in us enough.
Another way? When the jealous person accuses the other of cheating. How horrible to think that the one you love could be with someone else! Its horrible. Which is where the communication, trust and faithfulness comes in.
Do I get jealous? Of course I do! Do I think it’s bad? Not all the time. I could be jealous in anything, not necessarily a love interest. You could be my friend, if I’m unsure of where we stand, or how strong our bond is, depending on certain situations I could get jealous. If I have feelings for you and want to be with you in some way, if things are unclear about how you feel for me… yup… I WILL be jealous. Actions say a lot, but to me, words mean a whole lot! A lot! Both are incredibly important in my opinion.
In reality… if I’m confident in what we have, I’m not jealous. Let’s say we have any sort of relationship, if I know what we have is real and I’m for sure about what you truly feel for me… you could hang out with other friends, if you’re my boyfriend/husband someone could check you out and I’ll be like “whatever, he’s mine. no need to stress.”
Recently, I’ve noticed that “oh no you didn’t” attitude coming out! That “I just want to shake my head, roll my eyes, and give someone a piece of my mind,” kind of jealousy and I do not like it at all. You know what that tells me? Not enough communication in my part about my feelings. I’m a communicator. It’s what I do! I need to talk things out in order for everything to be good and “normal,” if you could even refer to me as normal. If I don’t tell you what I feel/think and it’s something pretty big to me… I’ll be a bit awkward. ayyy
I don’t think I’ll be communicating anytime soon…so I’m just going to have to deal, pray really hard, and whoever is left after being around my madness, are the keepers! <3
So why this long post?? Because jealousy is hot…to a certain extent… and now my jealousy is wow. But because of non-communication, not insecurities because I know I’m amazing and whoever gets to be my other half will be a truly blessed man! <3
